“What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back?” We’ve all heard or asked this question at some point (and probably a few times).

Going through a break up is hard, but there is a simple plan that you can follow to get your ex boyfriend back in your arms.

Most women take the wrong approach: they start calling, texting and emailing their ex’s too soon after a break up. It’s human nature to want to speak with someone that you’re close to, but if you want to win him back, then you have to give him some space.

So, “what can I do to get my ex boyfriend back?”

First, take a look at your behavior. You want to avoid the following things:

Don’t contact your ex. At this point, constant communication will to nothing but push him farther from you.

Don’t ask your friends to keep track of your ex boyfriend and give you updates. You want him out of sight and out of mind — at least for a few weeks.

What should you do?

Focus on yourself. Make a list of hobbies that you have and work them into your newly-found free time. Keep yourself busy and learn new skills.

Stay social and go out with your other friends. One of the worst things you can do is become a social recluse. If you want to get your ex back, then you’re going to need to keep your spirits up because depression will only slow you down.

Follow this list for two weeks and then you can start thinking about contacting your ex again. Your mysteriousness over the past few weeks will arouse his curiosity — and then you can start asking yourself “what can I do to get my ex boyfriend back?” again. This time, however, you’ll have a clear plan to follow.