If you’ve been following my videos, then you know there’s a time when you need to start calling your ex again. If you aren’t at this stage in the “get your ex back” plan, then resist the urge to jump ahead.
However, if you absolutely have to call your ex — like to go pick up your things — then these tips will help.
First, there are two things you need to avoid whenever you call your ex:
1) Do not plead! Remember, neediness will not help you get your ex back! Avoid saying things like “Can you can me back please, this is the 4th time I’ve called you and I really really want to talk to you”. Neediness kills your chances to get your ex back!
2) Don’t pretend you have an emergency. “This is an emergency, call me back as soon as possible”.
Both of these approaches put you in a terrible psychological position and they DON’T work. If you try them, then you’ll probably just come off sounding desperate and push your ex farther away from you!
So what does work?
Creating curiosity and self interest.
For example: “Hi John, this is Cindy. I’m calling to let you know that I really appreciate what you did for me. Call me back when you have time, I want to thank you in person.”
See the difference in this approach? Your ex starts asking questions, “what did I do?” and “what does she appreciate?”.
Your ex will be much more likely to call you back if you can create curiosity and self interest in your message.
But, remember that you need to have an action plan laid out before you start calling your ex again. Be sure to watch the free videos on this site and create an action plan before you attempt to call your ex. Starting too early and without a plan will ruin any chances of getting back together.
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