How to Win Your Ex Back?

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Getting over a relationship is hard and the fact is: most people want to patch up their relationship in the hours and days following a breakup. In most healthy relationships, it really is possible to get your ex back. So why do most people fail?

They don’t really know what to do.

We’ve created a free 5-part video series that shows how to get your ex back
Our videos show you:

*The biggest trick you can do today to win your lover back

*Two of the most common mistakes 90% of people make (that ruin your chances!)

*How to control your ex’s emotions

*Planning your approach to get back with your ex in 1 month

*Getting over your own emotions and dealing with the breakup

If you want to know how to get your ex back and win them back forever, then think about this:

If someone is sending you text messages and is constantly calling you, do you want to see them or are you more likely to think that they have a serious problem? You might even think they’re crazy! No matter if you want to learn how to get your ex boyfriend back or your ex girlfriend, we can help!

In order to bring their ex’s back into their lives, people need a system of rules to follow and things to avoid.

One of the biggest tricks for getting your ex back in your life is cutting contact with him or her. Of course, this doesn’t work for every situation, but there are times when it’s the best thing to do (and how video course will explain all that to you).

One of the main obstacles to getting your ex back is dealing with the depression, anger, frustration and helplessness that comes with the end of a relationship.

How can you take serious action when you’re having trouble getting out of bed and going about your normal routines?

Before you can think about getting your ex back, you need to do some work on yourself. You must learn how to fight off this depression and keep your life together.

Here’s another thing to think about: How many times a day do you think about your ex or your relationship? How many times do you ask yourself “What could I have done differently?” or “Where did I go wrong and why did he leave me?”

Most people spend the days following a breakup constantly thinking about their ex’s. If you add up the seconds and minutes, then you find that people lose an enormous amount of time worrying about the past.

What could you do with all this lost time? How much more motivated would you be if you weren’t preoccupied with your ex?

You could probably do a lot!

So what does all of this have to do with how to win your ex back?

A whole heck of a lot!

When we get into creating a plan to bring your boyfriend or girlfriend back, you’re going to have lots of things to do. For example, one of the key points is keeping your social life together. How can you stay social if you’d rather sit at home in your pajamas, eat ice cream and worry about your love life?

The ultimate goal is patching up your relationship, but it all starts with you. In fact, learning how to get over a break up is the first step for most people. While these tips and approaches to winning back your ex boyfriend or girlfriend are incredibly effective, they unfortunately will not work for everyone.

But!

The beauty of this program is that even if you don’t get your ex back in one month, then you going to be in a much better position to find someone new. You will also better understand what men and women are looking for in a relationship so that you’ll never make the same mistake twice.

Ready to learn more about fighting off post-relationship depression, getting your life together and creating the first few steps to win your ex back?

We’ve condensed this information into a five part video series which we will send you for free if you sign up for our e-mail mailing list. So what are you waiting for? It’s time to take control of the situation and learn exactly how to get your ex back into your life!

I Want My Ex Boyfriend Back: What to Do

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So, you’ve been saying “I want my ex boyfriend back” but aren’t quite sure where to start? Lots of girls don’t realize it, but your chances are pretty good to make up with your ex as long as you approach things the right way. There are also quite a few things you DON’T want to do right now, so pay close attention before you make any moves!

Be the Girl He Fell In Love With

Be yourself again.

Be yourself again.

Right now you’re probably hurt, a little depressed and maybe even overwhelmed by a whole bunch of other emotions. You probably haven’t felt like yourself lately either (and maybe you haven’t been acting like it!). It’s perfectly fine to feel this way, but you need to realize that you’ve got to get your groove back.

After a breakup our emotions can make us do some dumb things. Ever known someone who called/texted their ex at 2 am and begged for a second chance? Did that work for them or did they regret it in the morning? Now, you might not make big mistakes like that one, but even little differences in your behavior can make you seen REALLY unattractive to your ex.

The two riskiest emotions right now are neediness and insecurity. Calling your ex, acting awkward around him or creeping on his Facebook page are all needy and insecure actions. So, before you do stuff like that, ask yourself: Am I attracted to guys who are needy and insecure?

Of course not!

So why would your ex be attracted to someone like that?

Getting it Back Together

In order to help get your groove back and put some more spring in your step, you’ve got to give your ex some time off. This is easily summed up in the No Contact Rule, but here it is in a nutshell:

Cut your ex off – no phone calls, emails or Facebook stalking

Focus on yourself for a few weeks – spend time with your friends and on your own interests

Meet your ex again to “catch up” and SHA-BAM! he’ll be blown away by how attractive you are again!

Why does this work? You aren’t actually doing any magic, but you’re just becoming the person he was interested in way back when you first started dating: you’re active (you don’t mope around the house feeling bad about your ex ;) ), you have interests and hobbies and you’re generally a fun person to be around.

Guys are attracted to people like that even if you think your ex isn’t. So give him some time off and focus on making yourself happy for a bit.

Spend Time on Your Appearance

It's stereotypical, but makeovers do work wonders for your self esteem!

It’s stereotypical, but makeovers do work wonders for your self esteem!

Girls, this one is hard to admit for some of us, but we occasionally let ourselves go too much after a breakup. Hey, it’s cool to binge on chocolate and ice cream after he leaves if it helps you cope, but don’t let it become your new lifestyle.

If you haven’t been doing your hair, ironing your clothes and have been going out without make up on, then maybe it’s time to have a girls’ day at the spa and do some shopping?

Q: What’s the easiest way to feel great about yourself?

A: Some new clothes that make you look hot. Or a new haircut. Or some makeup. Or a manicure.

I’m not trying to be vain or play on stereotypes here, but deep down we all want to look good. And you know what? It’s perfectly okay every now and then to spoil yourself and be superficial. And breakups are a great time for this ;) .

What else can some new gear besides making you feel good?

It’ll get your ex’s attention! Do you think your ex will notice if you dump into him and are all dressed up and looking like you’re going out for the night? Yep. Do you think he’ll wonder about where you’re going? Oh yeah!

Of course there’s a fine line between looking classy and over-doing it, but we’ll talk about that later ;) .

This tip goes back to our philosophy that in order to get back with your ex, you’ve got to get over the guy first.

Follow a Plan.

If you made it this far and you’re still saying “I want my ex boyfriend back” then you need a plan. We gave you a rough outline above, but if you’re serious (and I know you are because you made it this far!), then you need more specific information – and it’s unfortunately beyond the scope of this blog post.

However, we’ve got a neat little 5-part video course that we’ll send you absolutely free if you enter your email address into the box at the top or bottom of this post. We’ll expand on the ideas in this post and give you a few more sneaky psychological  tricks that you gotta know. Sign up and we’ll send you the first part right away!

How to get ur ex girlfriend back

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If you recently went through a breakup and are wondering how to get ur ex girlfriend back, then there are some things you need to know. First of all, your gut reaction is not what you want to be following! Whether you realize it or not, you’re in a very emotionally-sensitive place right now and this may make you do some strange things – things that could make your ex hate you! So, before you try any plan or method to get ur girl back, be sure you’re avoiding these common mistakes:

Begging for a Second Chance

begging ex girlfriend

Begging her doesn’t work and only makes you look like a fool.

Lots of guys beg and plead for a second chance in the days following their breakups. No matter how you approach asking for a second chance, it’s going to end badly. Think about it from her perspective for a minute: are you attracted to girls who beg you for a date after you’ve rejected them and shown no interest? Of course not! Neediness is very unattractive, so don’t try it!

Sending Random Gifts to Show you Still Care

Have you considered sending your ex some flowers, chocolates or some other present to show her that there are no hard feelings and you’re still interested? Don’t! You can’t buy her back right now and it’s basically begging with a present. Flowers and gifts CAN be great for showing your appreciation/love for someone, but right now they aren’t going to work for you, so save your money.

Over Analyzing Your Breakup

It’s completely natural to replay your “breakup event” over and over in your head. You’ve probably thought about one or two things that you could’ve changed that might have prevented the breakup. Well, here’s the hard truth: your ex isn’t interested in your logic right now and she won’t see things the same way – no matter how good the idea sounds to you!

Being a Nice Guy

It’s tempting to try and help your ex out with whatever problems she has: homework issues, stuff around the house that needs fixing or whatever. She just broke up with you! No matter how much you want to help her out and be nice, it’s not going to make her be attracted to you again. Nice guys finish last when it comes to breakups.

Spending Too Much Time Worrying About Her

Okay, it’s natural to keep thinking about someone you were in a relationship with, but you’ve got to keep your mind off of her! The more you think about it, the more depressed you’ll get and the more likely you’ll try one of the “makeup no-nos” in this article. Give her time to cool off and it will increase the odds for a second chance.

Smothering Her with Messages

You’ve got her number, her Facebook and probably 5 or 6 other ways to talk to her. No means of communication will do you any favors right now. In fact, the more you talk to her the more likely you’ll ruin any chances you have. Instead give her time to cool off and forget about whatever conflicts made your relationship suffer. It sounds unlikely, but trust me: time will help her forget the bad and remember all the goods things you had together. Besides, do you really think drunk dialing your ex at 2am will make her attracted to you again? It doesn’t work in the movies and it won’t work for you!

drunk text ur ex gf

You’ll regret it in the morning.

Not Getting Good Help

Getting ur ex girlfriend back is tough: hopefully you’ve seen how your gut instincts will do you more harm then good. So what can you do? For starters, don’t try to deal with it on your own. Most people make mistake after mistake when they do through a breakup, but you don’t have to!

If you’re serious about getting back with ur girlfriend, then check out our free 5-part video course. Simply enter your email address into the box at the top or bottom of this post and we’ll send you part 1 right away. You’ll learn exactly what to do if you want to maximize your chances to win her back.

How to Get Through a Break Up

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How to Get Through a Break Up

So you just broke up with your significant other and you have no idea what to think. Even if you have been through a break up before, you are still probably in a confused mind state—not many people know how to get over a break up. Regardless of whether or not you got dumped or ended the relationship yourself, it is a very difficult thing to do to move on when you are so used to their presence in your life.

The problem a lot of people face when breaking up with someone is relapsing and going back with the person, only to later break up again on even worse terms. Naturally, this is significantly worse than just moving on gracefully. The smartest thing you can do while breaking up with someone is to ready your mind for the roller coaster of feelings and emotions that you will experience.

You will undoubtedly want to escape in a bad habit, like smoking or being lazy, so you need to focus on grounding yourself regularly. Remember that it is your life, and not yours plus your ex’s. It is not easy to change your lifestyle and state of mind over night, so you will need to muster the motivation to keep going!

Find a support group

One of the biggest issues you will deal with when going through a break up is that you are missing someone you were very close to. You will need to replace this intimate support structure with a broader one. You likely have many people you can tap in to for support, you might not just realize it. Some of the more obvious candidates are your immediate family, however you can find support in your friends and acquaintances as well! Surround yourself with people who can lend an ear and you will find yourself able to talk through your current problems instead of bottling them up.

Let’s just be friends

This is a common mistake that a lot of people who do not know how to get through a break up make—being friends. Although it can occasionally work out that two people who were in a relationship can remain good friends, the reality of it is that this rarely works.

Emotions may still lurk inside one person, and that could potentially lead to a relapse or an awkward experience. If you remain friends anyway, avoid hanging out late at night, or putting yourself in a position where you might lose control of the situation to your emotions.

Avoid depression and lethargy

laziness

After a tough break up, most people feel defeated and upset, and allow themselves to rationalize that nothing else matters. Skipping classes, missing work, and being lazy are all common actions taken by people who do not know how to get through a break up. You will need to find ways to motivate yourself and remain positive, so try to invest your time in things that please you such as a fun hobby, or work on improving yourself.

Delete their number

This is an important step if you are going through a break up. It may seem a little juvenile or unnecessary, but far too often people, after breaking up, will become inebriated and stir up feelings with a late night text or call. This is a surefire way to relapse, and because of this, you will need to take precautions. This is a step towards the no contact rule.

By removing their number from your cell phone, you take away the option of drunk texting them. And besides, it is not like you will not ever be able to contact them again if you need to, such as getting something from their house or apartment. You likely have many mutual friends that have both of your numbers that you can contact to retrieve their number.

Feng shui

Seeing the same exact layout of furniture that you associate with spending time with your ex could have you subconsciously yearning for them. Take some time and come up with a new, better furniture layout that you absolutely love. Perhaps buy a fish tank, or something unique and new, that is a constant reminder of your new life. This will make you associate your living space with the new you, and help stymy the old feelings.

On the curb

What good is a new looking living area if it is filled with your ex’s stuff? You will undoubtedly need to get rid of it all because seeing something that is heavily tied to a memory of your ex can once again stir up emotions that you simply do not want to awaken. Go through your house with a fine tooth comb and eliminate everything that reminds you of your ex.

Also, pay extra attention to your bed. Get a new mattress, buy some incense, change the sheets, and get a new blanket. After moving your bedroom layout around, spend a night acquainting yourself with the new bed. Remind yourself that it is yours, and it is just as good without your ex in it. Only by doing this kind of thing can you really move on!

Be yourself

be yourself

While you are rearranging and cleaning your living space, take some time to think about what you could do to make yourself better. Things that you could never do while in your relationship, perhaps. Or things that your significant other was never interested in. Take time to stay on top of your game. Get a hair cut, hit the gym, or just take a walk every few days. Take a class on something you are interested in.

Regardless of what you do, try to work on improving your own life, because getting through a break up requires you to evaluate what it is that you want, and where you think you are going. This is how to get through a break up, and only by actively looking to move forward with your life will you successfully transition and move on.